No more dating pigs you are what you date
Are they bad in bed because they are over enthusiastic and nervous?Or are they bad in bed because they are selfish, or applying the exact same moves to you that they’ve done on everyone else they’ve slept with? The latter suggests there might be bumps in the road.
Monogamy changed that because now, instead of being cavemen having dozens of cavebabies with multiple women to populate this brave new world, we are boyfriends and husbands who remain with the same woman for years or even a lifetime.
Telling people (women, mostly) not to have sex on the first date is a long held way of policing our behaviour.
It uses the prospect of a relationship as a sort of carrot, dangled in front of a woman to bribe her into being chaste until she’s in a serious relationship.
Maybe it’s the first date sex that’s the reason for the relationship.
I have always believed that sex on the first date is the perfect way to filter out dickheads.
Once you can let go of trying to be a mindreader and figure out what’s going on in that 8-pound hunk of thinking muscle, you change as a romantic partner. Men look at how women get emotional at something and wonder why because we can’t see ourselves getting emotional about it.