Marriage after dating for years
While the negative marital impact of becoming parents is familiar to fathers and mothers, it is especially insidious because so many young couples think that having children will bring them closer together or at least will not lead to marital distress.Yet, this belief, that having children will improve one’s marriage, is a tenacious and persistent myth among those who are young and in love.And it’s good that so many mothers treasure that bond with their child, because the transition to parenthood causes profound changes in a woman’s marriage and her overall happiness… Families usually welcome a baby to the mix with great expectations.
And indeed, the arrival of children changes how couples interact.All of these changes lead to fundamental and long-lasting effects on new mothers’ circle of support, including with their spouses.The consequences of the relationship strain can be serious.Even when both parents work outside the home and even in marriages in which both spouses describe themselves as sharing the burden of household chores, most parents slide toward gender-stereotypical ways of parenting.
Women are more likely to become the “on call” parent, the one who gets up in the night to bring a child a tissue or who’s called by the school nurse.
Marital stress is associated with many serious physical health problems as well as symptoms of depression and other mental health problems.