Dating a career woman
Others, though, tone down their ambition — or even drop goals altogether — in order to attract or keep a guy around.As Yi S., 31, a finance professional, learned the hard way, the latter can lead to bigger problems down the line.And you may be handing over the majority of your ability to make decisions in the relationship because you’re signaling that your partner’s desires override yours, says economist Marina Adshade, Ph D, author of Bottom line: Taming your ambition may land you a boyfriend.However, if you have a big vision of what you hope to accomplish in your career, there’s a strong chance you won’t be satisfied for long.Not everyone you’re with has to be on the same bell curve of achievement as you and you tell yourself that that’s okay.Throughout W24’s series A Seat at the Table, phenomenal women from all ages have shared their thoughts, opinions and wisdoms.When Lauren S., 27, a mechanical engineer, met her now-ex at a festival, she fell hard. Until her picks for dinner spots were “too lavish.” One night, he asked about her salary — then everything changed.“He made me laugh, the sex was great, and he was intellectually stimulating,” she says. “He couldn’t look past the fact that I made more money,” says Lauren. workforce is female and 40 percent of those women are their family’s breadwinner.
Among the straight, ambitious, and unattached, Lauren’s story is familiar. They can’t find a guy who’s comfortable with all that awesomeness.“He said, ‘If you give this up now, I will support you in whatever you want to do later,’” Yi recalls. When she started vocalizing her career aspirations, he’d throw out comments like, “But who will make dinner?” He did want a smart wife, Yi says — just not a successful one.Here’s a list of 5 experiences that happen when you’re trying to find love as a career woman: You resort to dating losers.
You convince yourself that partners with less ambition will not be intimidated by your fierceness.“I suppose I should tell you what this bitch is thinking You'll find me in the studio and not in the kitchen I won't be bragging 'bout my cars or talking 'bout my chains Don't need to shake my ass for you 'cause I've got a brain”Lilly Allen said it best in her song “It’s hard out here”.